Last Sunday, on assignment from the Stake Presidency, our Bishop held a special meeting with all of the adults in the ward during the third-hour of church services. He had been asked to give a presentation on the doctrines behind the Church’s position on same-sex attraction. It was great lesson, a good discussion where he spoke candidly about an extremely sensitive subject and allowed members to ask questions and make comments and invited any who had issues or questions they felt uncomfortable asking in a public setting to meet with him privately. I would like to share some of the points our bishop made and add a few of my own thoughts.
He began by saying that he feels he is a very simple man, he often reflects on Adam’s response to the angel when he was asked why he was offering sacrifice, “I know not, save the Lord commanded me”. And then he outlined two basic principles that are and must be the foundation of any discussion of homosexuality and the gospel:
- The two great commandments, as specified by Jesus Christ, himself, are that we love God and that we love our neighbor as our self. Love has to be the basis of everything we do in the gospel. If we call ourselves Christian, if we profess to follow Jesus and to be striving to be more like God, then we will be filled with love for everyone. They are our brothers and sisters and children of God, regardless of sexual orientation or any other factor.
- The Law of God is very clear: Any sexual act outside of the bond of marriage between a man and a woman is sin. This does not just condemn homosexual acts, but any sexual act between any persons who are not married.
For me, that does sum up the issue completely. There is a law declared from heaven and all mankind is expected to live the law of God or they cannot inherit the Kingdom of God. Yet, at the same time we all have to remember that everyone we encounter in our mortal lives here on this earth is a child of God, same as we are, and that we all have the same divine spark within us and the same divine potential. Family is the foundation of this world and we are all family in the eyes of God. We cannot treat any individual any less or any different than we treat any other individual.
I did like what Bishop was saying, though, especially when one member made the comment that it does not seem fair. He said his brother is homosexual and has been with his partner longer than he had been with his wife. He described a loving relationship but then said that if they were to join the Church they would have to give up everything they have. Bishop answered very directly, and I felt that he was using the full weight of his calling as Bishop when he stated that it isn’t fair. Life isn’t fair. He said that he had been giving a building tour to a family with the missionaries and one of them told him, “This Church is hard”. He agreed. This Church is hard, it does expect a lot of us, it expects all of us to change who we are and to become perfect, as our Father in Heaven is perfect.
As Bishop spoke, I was reminded of a favorite scripture, Mosiah 3:19.
For the natural man is an enemy to God, and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever,unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit, and putteth off the natural man and becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love,willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him, even as a child doth submit to his father
This verse holds a special place in my heart for the eternal truths that it teaches. All of us have natural tendencies and natural desires. Each of us have our own individual challenges that keep us from being perfect like our Father is. Yet, there is one path, one Way through which we can overcome the natural man. We need to “yield to the enticings of the Holy Spirit, and put off the natural man and become a saint through the atonement of Christ”. There is no special set of commandments for homosexuals, with different commandments for heterosexuals. All children of God are asked to keep the same commandments and live the same law. True, we all start in different places, so the distance between where we are and where God wants us to be is different for each individual. But, we are not racing against each other. We are racing against ourselves, striving toward the finish line that the Lord has drawn, which is the Kingdom of Heaven. All of us need the atonement of Christ to help us put off our natural man, to put off the natural tendencies and appetites that we all have.
Bishop was very frank and stated that sexual desires are given to us from God. The desire to have sex is a good thing as it leads us to seek out a worthy spouse and to have children, filling the earth with families. Yet, like all other desires, it needs to be controlled and used within the bounds the Lord has set.
But, again, at closing the Bishop brought it back to the point he made at the beginning — he repeated that we need to have love. We need to remember love in all of our dealings with our fellow men. We need to have the love of God in our hearts naturally spilling out to encompass everyone we come into contact with. We love all of our Father in Heaven’s children, and because we love them we desire that they come to a knowledge of Jesus Christ and of his Atonement. We teach correct principles and doctrine and hope and pray and love and work with everyone to accept the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. But in the end, every one of us has the ability to make our own choices and we must allow that. But, we can never stop loving.